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We all know pregnancy comes with its hurdles. Not many will tell you that introducing a new baby to its future siblings can actually be a problem in itself. Some children warm to a new baby straight away, others, not so.

 Those who don't warm to the idea of sharing mummy and daddy with someone else will need to be worked on a little bit more. Slowly but surely wins the race they say. You will have to have some patience and a lot of sympathy when working on them.



Some older toddlers may feel slightly jealous or angry towards the new arrival. Maybe they don't like the idea of having to share toys or share kisses with mummy and daddy. Getting your elder babies and toddlers used to the idea of having a new arrival is obviously key to the start of a happy, stress-free start. Newborns are hard work at the best of times, the last thing we want is for our toddler battles to come between all those expected stresses.

We've compiled our best tips and tricks for all those who are needing a little help in hand in introducing a new baby to the family. Check out what our lovely blogger parents have said below. Be sure to check out their blogs too!



I've got a 2 1/2 year old and 9 week old. We heavily involved my eldest daughter in my pregnancy. She came to all the appointments, she chose clothes, felt baby kicking etc. Anything that got too small for her we told her would be for the baby so she kept putting things to one side saying they were for the baby! Once the baby was here we let my eldest introduce the baby to any visitors. Thankfully there hasn't been any real jealousy
Naomi - notaperfectparent.com


I had Freddie fill some wicker baskets up of things for the baby, wipes, creams, nappies etc and so when Dexter was here he was so proud that it was his job to “get the basket” and get what I needed. Emma - Readyfreddiego.com


Buy the older child a “gift” from the baby for being such a great big brother/sister. 
It really diverted attention and made Charlie instantly warm to the girls (he’s easily won over!) 


During feeds, I read with the toddler on the sofa so he's next to me and hopefully doesn't feel too left out
Victoria - thegrowingmum.com

I involve my son as much as possible so he will read to him, help grab things I need and he will often sit and chat with him or sing with him. There hasn't been any jealousy because whenever anyone is making a fuss of the baby we comment on how wonderful a big brother he is and it seems to be working. Sophie - sophobsessed.com


My daughter was two when I had my second and I involved her as much as possible with the newborn. She also had a doll and she would mimic what I was doing. For example, we gave her some nappies to change her baby! If I was lying with the baby on top of me, she would lie next to me with her baby on top of her! It definitely made her feel included and I don't think she felt left out at all. It made her feel like she had something important to do too. 
Victoria - healthyvix.com

Involve them & don't leave them out. You can involve them by asking them to help change a nappy, pick out some clothes for their baby sibling and just get them to help with most things you do with the baby. 

My daughter was two when we had our second child. The best tip I had was when they come to see you in the hospital make sure you're not holding the new baby so they don't think they have been 'replaced'. Have the baby in the cot and have lots of cuddles with your eldest. We had a little present from the baby to our daughter and she was thrilled. When at home, make sure you have one on one time with your eldest and get them involved if they are old enough to help. Sarah - surreymama.com

As well as getting a small gift from the older siblings for the baby that they have chosen themselves I also got a small gift from the new baby for the older sibling, something they really wanted. I also made sure that my family gave my eldest son some attention and cuddles first before they held the new baby, some needed reminding about this but most did it naturally. Terri - thestrawberryfountain.com

I made sure to include my eldest, even in the small things to do with the baby. When I was breastfeeding a lot at the beginning, I would always make sure my free arm was there for a cuddle with my older one, and we would read a book together. Jade - thriftyyorkshiremum.com

On introducing my eldest to my youngest she took one look and ran off. After a few days at home with us all, I guess she thought ah so you are staying then. We'd read books to her about having a baby brother/sister but at 1 didn't vocalise her thoughts.
Helena - thequeenofcollage.blogspot.com

In the run-up to my second daughters birth, I tried to make my eldest as excited as possible and feel as though I needed her help looking after the baby - she loved feeling important. 

I have three & when the younger two were born someone advised me not to be holding the new baby when the older ones met them for the first time, but to have them in the crib or on the bed when you say 'here's your new brother/sister'. That way they see them as a whole new person, not someone who has replaced them. Natalie - crummymummy.co.uk

We made sure that the older children understood what was going to happen, I explained that my attention will need to be on the baby a lot more than them but that didn’t mean I loved them less, but I’m grateful that my two older children fell in love with their younger sister and are so protective of her. Sarah - mummycatnotes.com

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We hope by reading this blog post it may have given you a few ideas as to what you could do to eliminate any jealousy and/or other problems which may arise from introducing a new baby to the younger members of your family.

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First off, massive thanks to the lovely Sarah over at whimsicalmumblings for the tag on this post. 


1. What's the best thing about blogging for you?
It's been a great way to rant and write about things in day to day life as a parent. All those things that don't usually get a mention but you know you can write a post about it and half the country will completely agree - it's been able to share those smaller things I've learnt to appreciate.
2. What is your happiest memory?
My happiest memory was without a doubt the day my son was born.
3. Do you have a favourite season?Autumn. It's the colours, smells, the trees and crunchy sounds when you walk through the park on all those leaves.. and it's the lead up to Christmas too, the excitement!
4. Are you an early bird or a night owl?
Night Owl definitely. Always have, always will be. I have more motivation, more energy, I'm more alert and productive - there's just something about post 6pm that my body enjoys! I call it 'prime time'.
5. If you have children, share your favourite photo of them.

I don't know what it is about this photo. I absolutely adore it though, his big blue eyes, cheeky smile. It just melts me.

6. What's your favourite TV programme?
110% Casualty. I've adored it since I was a small girl but as I've grown older I've become sooo much more addicted to it. It's like, Saturday is the highlight of my week because of Casualty, I have meltdowns when it's not on ... I'm like a toddler having a tantrum!
7. How do you relax?
What does that mean? Can parents even relax? I guess picking up lego blocks could be classed as relaxing? No?
8. Tea or coffee?
Coffee. Every day of the week. Strong black coffee at that!
9. What inspires you?
Nature, music, young talent, youtubers, quotes.
10. What would be your dream holiday?
I'd love to visit America. I've actually never been fortunate enough to go abroad but I hope one day we can visit America and explore all those tourist places on my vision board.

I'm tagging the following blogger -

Jess over at - www.tantrumstosmiles.co.uk
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1) You'll learn to live on minimal sleep from that point on and then you'll wonder exactly how you needed 8 hours sleep just to get by and go about your day as normal, now you can do it on 2 and even stop at a play gym for an hour - fueled on coffee may I add, lots of it.

2) You can't nurse a hangover in peace




3) You can't reason with a 2-year-old. No matter how hard you try and how amazing your patience is. They hold all cards in that department, m'fraid!







4) Those moments from you not being able to wait for them to talk, quickly turns into desperation for them to turn 18 and move out. Seriously, that's the truest statement I've ever written.

5) Time flies. It really does! (Apart from when you're in the doctors waiting room watching the same episode of Peppa Pig on YouTube, over and over again!)




6) Children are just exaggerated versions of ourselves. Maybe a little sassier.


7) Set your expectations high, your children will follow. What's the point in slumming yourself through parenthood? You are your child's teacher. Be that person you want them to grow up to be.





8) Children remember more than you think they do. That red car with the blue stripes you gave to the charity shop? The one he didn't touch for months? He's sifted through the 150 strong box of matchbox cars and remembers the red one with blue stripes and wants it now.



9) You can never take too many photos or videos

 


















10) You can't take spontaneous trips anymore! Ok, I mean you can... just no those to McDonald's at midnight or those late night drives - unless you want a bunch of upset, tired kids in the car?

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What would you 10 things be?

I'm tagging the following bloggers to take up this challenge -


XxX

Here are the Rules

  1. Thank the blogger that tagged you and link to their blog.
  2. List 10 things you wish you'd have known before becoming a parent (this is just a guideline. It can be more or less than 10. I really don’t mind.)
  3. Tag 3 – 5 bloggers to join in the #10ThingsIwishIdHaveKnown Tag.
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"I would have taken every possible risk to be with you, I swear."


People say you don't know what you have until it's gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just never thought you'd lose it.

The worst tragedy in the world is when two people love each other so much, they just can't make it work.


I saw him, I couldn't differentiate between my heart breaking and my heart fluttering. We had so many plans for the future. Our future.
Aren't we meant to runaway with each other? Not from each other? 



There is honestly no reason to lie to me. I'm too understanding. I get it. I get life. I know that shit happens. Just be straight up with me. Just please, don't hurt me in the process. 
I guess too much is wrong with me. I don't wanna ever feel like I did that day. Indescribable.
Now that I have seen your soul and your body, I won't ever be able to forget about you. And in this way, I know that you have ruined me.





It's not the breakup that hurts the most. It's the post trauma that follows it. It's waking up and checking your phone for the messages that aren't there. It's like starting your whole life again and you have no idea where to begin. That's what hurts the most.

Doing those activities on your own when you've always had someone to do them with. Everything reminds you of them, particular scents, your favourite (or not so now) walks... 



The main reason people struggle with moving on is because deep down we want the person we fell in love with to return and things go back to how they started. It's so hard to accept when people change, or turn out to be the opposite of what we thought they were. 

Maybe it won't work out. But maybe seeing if it does will be the best adventure ever.

I guess there's a story behind every person. There's a reason why they're the way they are. They aren't just like that because they want to be. Something in the past created them, sometimes it's impossible to fix. Stories are different for everyone. 
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